Friday, May 29, 2009

Dog We Need : Yes We Can !
















My daughters and I have been pleading for a dog for years. I’ve reminded my husband for the last 17 years that he promised we’d get a dog when I left mine behind before our move to France.

In November, I came across an ad scotch-taped to the counter of the local Newspaper shop and gave the person a call, just to see. A woman living in the same town was selling a golden retriever/lab for only 50 euros. Having scanned the occasional ad, I thought there was a zero missing, but there wasn’t. I guess because the dog is a mutt, he was a discount dog, like Marley. But there’s not much mutt involved in crossing a lab with a golden retriever. They’re pretty much in the same category in my book. This dog is, however, a cross between a golden retriever and a black lab. Half the puppies were black and half were cream colored.

Anyway, the woman had one male left and he would be ready to be taken in December, just in time for Christmas. Rather than trying to hide a puppy in a box for a week, I decided to approach my daughters first. “If you were getting a dog,” I asked them, “would you prefer it be a surprise or would you like to choose it yourselves?”

The “If” in my question was pretty ridiculous and they saw right through it and were instantly obsessed by the possibility of finally having a pet. Now all they had to do was convince Philippe.

What followed was pure politics. My daughters hung banners around the house. “Dog We Need, Yes we can!” Hey, if it worked for Obama (who calls himself a mutt as well) …

I guess my husband was still basking in the lovely aftermath of Obama-mania.

Donuts would have been called Obama if it hadn’t been for the tradition in this country of naming dogs. Like hurricanes, dogs get new letters each year. 2008 was a “D” year. I wanted to call him “Disco,” but the girls had become fans of Dunkin’ Donuts on our last trip to New York.

Disco might have been more suitable as he has this way of wagging his entire bottom end when he gets excited and he loves to dance, but Donuts has grown on me, maybe because I'm dieting and can't eat any.

He’s now 7 months old and about 25 kilos heavier than he was at Christmas time. We should have considered the possibility of having a dog when we chose to put in a pool and chose cream colored tiling for the deck. It is no longer solid but more often embellished with a kind of exotic pattern of beige paw prints. It kind of fits in with the fashion trend for exotic prints, right? We’re also out one door mat, four flip-flops, seven tomato plants (freshly planted), two dresses (mine), three sweatshirts (the girls’) and the neighbor’s cat (who more or less lives with us) is looking pretty mangy from having his entire head stuck inside Donut’s mouth. He’s also nibbled on a shutter. Our garden has been fenced in since to avoid further damage to summer vegetables. He has nipped at my Guess handbag and I keep reminding him that if he does damage to that or any of my shoes which aren’t made out of plastic, I may not be able be as quick to forgive him.

But he’s an excellent watch dog. He barks rather viciously at airplanes which have blinking lights at night, the lawnmower, vacuum cleaner, hair dryer and my cell phone which rings to the song “I’ve got a pocket full of sunshine” (cranked up to the highest volume possible so that I hear it soon enough to find it in the bottom of my Guess handbag which may explain his fetish for it).

As I write this, he is napping underneath the desk, using my feet as a pillow. He wakes up occasionally to give me a full foot bath. Okay, I can live without a few dresses, but I do hope he leaves my bag alone!

Thursday, May 28, 2009

A French (even more meticulous) Bree

There's this woman whose children have been going to the same schools as mine for over ten years now. She has a knack of making me feel like a deshevled, fat cow with no taste every time I see her. And, of course, blonde woman that I am, I always seem to say or do something extremely stupid in her presence. The worst part is she remains overwhelmingly nice to me in spite of my awkwardness.

Our daughters were very good friends for a long time in kindergarten, and they did the sleepover thing for a couple of years. One time her daughter came just after Halloween which wasn't yet celebrated in France. I had been invited into the classroom, however, to do a demonstration of a pumpkin carving and talk about how we celebrated the holiday in the States. The pumpkin had come back to our house and I'd left it out by the front door the night her daughter arrived. The following morning, the pumpkin was gone and when Mme Bree asked me about the pumpkin, I told her I'd had to throw it out because it had begun to rot. For reasons seemingly beyond my control, I went on and on about this. I don't quite remember what I said, but I do know that I got pretty specific about how the pumpkin had fallen apart when I'd tried to lift it off the platter and into the garbage, and I believe I'd gone on to evoke specific odours that accompanied this ritual. I suppose that I was filling up the silence with whatever I could come up with. But then I went on to tell her that we'd all eaten homemade pumpkin soup for dinner (all of us, including her daughter of course). Realizing what I'd just done, I quickly explained that it hadn't been made with the rotten pumpkin, but it was too late. The damage was done. She quickly replaced the disgust on her face with one of her charming smiles, but I knew she continued to believe her daughter had been fed rotten pumpkin soup and she was worrying about the consequences this would have on her health. Anyway, this is the type of gaffe I tend to always make in front of her.

I hadn't seen her in over a year since our daughters have gone off to different high schools. But yesterday, a Wednesday, I did my grocery shopping in town. I was having a bad hair day and a red face day. I had also had to change at the last minute because my dog had ripped my dress so I'd thrown on a tee shirt I never wear because it's bright coral and makes my face even redder. Needless to say, I was feeling rather ugly. So there I am, my shopping cart overflowing with stuff, and Mme Bree shows up with her little woven basket over her arm, dressed in a finely tailored suit, looking tan and radiant. Her hair was perfect and I almost wanted to ask her what shampoo she used to keep her hair from going brittle despite the coloring, but I'm getting better now about making such remarks.

This said, I had to lay all my goods out on the counter while she checked out and cheerfully chatted to me. I noticed her eyes catch a glimpse of the coupons in my fist and the bag-in-the-box rosé wine, the chocolate bars, the Old El Paso taco dinners...and I remembered how one day I had just spurted it all out to her and said something insane like "I don't know how some women manage to do it all. I just can't keep up with it. I can't be perfect all the time." I even remember crying in front of her while I said this. I wonder if she understood that those "some people" were only people like her, and in fact, she is the only person I know who can live up to that standard. And then I remembered what my husband said when we talked about her perfect-ness one time: people who look that great on the outside probably wear dirty underwear.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

The Wednesay Mom Blues

This Wednesday thing is one of the things that make me miss the States. In the U.S., kids get out of school early every day, and they can do all kinds of things after school, at school. They don’t need to be driven around from one activity to the next. When they get old enough to go to places like the movies or the mall on their own, they also get old enough to drive there themselves. (Okay, well maybe that’s one thing I don’t mind giving up).

Over here, they get out of school after dark in the winter. Now that it’s nearly summer and the days are longer, they can at least see the sun for a couple of hours before going to bed, but their days are eternal. But on Wednesdays they only have half days. That means that everything they can’t do all week while they’re in school must be crammed into Wednesday afternoons.

I asked to have one day a week off from work. I also asked that it not be a Wednesday. Of course, that’s what I got off. I suppose the person in charge of my schedule thought it was a mistake. Don’t all mothers in this country want Wednesdays off?

No! I don’t!

I want a real day off!

Besides, my children are teenagers. They would be perfectly happy spending their afternoons in front of the television and on MSN messenger without me pestering them to go outside and play.

“Play?” I can just hear my thirteen-year-old twin girls saying. “We aren’t children anymore.”

They are, of course, children and capable of spending hours out there creating gymnastics/dance routines or splashing in the pool, but they just can’t call that playing and I’d be laughed at for suggesting such an insane idea.

They do go out, however. They go out with friends to places I need to drive them to. Or they beg me to take them shopping. They also have all kinds of activities on Wednesdays, even if I wisely attempted to limit those.

I once thought this Wednesday thing would get better as they grew older, but it gets worse. Now that they are in high school and junior high school, they have odd schedules that allow them to get out early. One only has two hours of class, from eight to ten which means I have to wake up early too.

And, of course, I’m home, and I have “nothing else to do” according to my daughters and even my husband. So I get to drive everyone to all the places they have and want to go to, and then I get to do the grocery shopping and run errands that my husband (who works all day on Wednesdays and every other day of the week) doesn’t have time to do.

I get to make lunch for everyone too, and then clean up.

So Wednesdays are very convenient days for me to have off for everyone else but me.

It is nearly three in the afternoon and I have yet to find a moment alone to do anything that might coincide in some way with the ideology of “a day off.”

To get a real day off, I’d have to call in sick on some other day of the week. But in this country that would also mean I’d actually have to be sick as they don’t just take your word for it but expect you to furnish a document signed by a doctor ordering you to stay home. That would also mean that I’d actually have to stay home all day and I wouldn’t be able to do all those things I would like to do on a day off like shop or get my hair done. If I just stayed home, I’d end up cleaning, cooking, ironing and correcting papers all day so it’s really not worth it. I work less at work.

But I must remind myself that in just a few weeks, we’ll all be off on summer break. That sure sounds nice, doesn’t it? I picture myself lying out by the pool, flipping through a women’s magazine. But then, my realistic thoughts interfere with that fantasy. We’ll all be home. All day, every day. My children, oh sorry, teenagers, will want to go places. Or they’ll lounge around the house in pyjamas or wet bathing suits until Philippe and I put an end to their rituals by pulling the plug on every object equipped with a screen. My husband will want me to help him do things around the house and the yard. There will be three meals a day to prepare and three tables to clear…maybe next year I’ll get Thursdays off. Now that’s something to dream about.

Who You Are Test

I've been looking for this test for years! The last time I took this test, the results gave birth to nicknames for my best friend and I. Is she still out there? I know we will contect again, China. Chrystal misses you. You are still my soul sister even if we seem to have lost touch. I'll always remember the time you found my earring on that Atlantic City beach at dawn. I guess that's proof that we will always find each other, one day.

http://buenluz.blogspot.com/2009/02/relational-psychology-test.html

Memories of one of the best weeks of my life










Times Square viewed from the M&M's store.






My daughters, hubby and Kaelee

















A warm welcome after a long trip!


















Wish I was back on that plane! Has it already been a year???

My Name is on Amazon!

I didn't even know this! When I google my name, I found a link to Amazon where a book including one of my stories is still on sale. That's kind of cool.

http://www.amazon.com/WATCHING-TIME-Anthology-Prizewinng-Stories/dp/184728969X

My Old Writing Blog

This page won't be up much longer because they're shutting Geocities down. I'm including the link here in the hopes that it won't just disappear.


http://www.geocities.com/rebeccamarshallcourtois/bio.html

What Season Are You?

I still haven't figured this one out, but I keep trying. Maybe my problem is I love all the colors on the charts, but I do know that I can't wear anything reddish because I look like I've just come back from an hour-long run.

Here are a few links to check out:

http://www.colormebeautiful.com/seasons/index.html

(They tell you your season, but they sell you the color charts... sniff!!)

http://www.chickjunk.com/colors-of-the-seasons/

(Can someone please explain how to find out what your undertones are???)

Shopping: Where to Buy American Clothes

Two of my favorite American stores deliver to France and in other countries around the world. The upside is the dollar is down so it may also save you money. The downside is you must remember you'll be taxed on the items you buy and this can sometimes almost double the costs of delivery which are already pretty high. But since I am tired of coming to work to find someone wearing the same dress or skirt or top bought at Promod or Etam, I think it's sometimes worth the extra wait and prices.

victoriassecret.com

The best bras in the world! Also great clothes, designer shoes and handbags.

forever21.com

Low prices, almost too many to choose from. My teen daughters adore this brand.

Know any more? Happy shopping!

Shopping: French American Size Equivalents

Just thought this might be of use to some of you. At this link, you'll find all the size equivalents for the United States, France and the UK.

http://www.cfps23.com/information/sizes.php

How to Stop Bra Bumps

8 out of 10 women don't know what their bra size is. The results are visible and uncomfortable.

Here's how to find the right bra size in France:

Before trying on bras, take your measurements:

Using a measuring tape, find your measure by placing the ribbon just under your breasts. Add 15 to the number of centimeters. For example, if you measure 80 cm, your bra size would be 95. Then you find the cup size, basically by trying on bras.

How can you be sure a bra fits when you try in on?

Move! Don't hesitate to move your arms, bend over, stretch your arms over your head and check to see if the part between your breasts stays in place, touching your skin.

Adjust the straps, but don't pull them too tight.

It is best to use the center setting on the back (or front) to leave room for any weight gain or loss.

For more information on French sizes, check out this link with a chart on sizing:

http://www.linternaute.com/femmes/luxe_mode/conseils/0802-soutien-gorge.shtml

Go To
For more information, including answers to all common problems and even a video demonstration check out this link:

http://www.wikihow.com/Measure-Your-Bra-Size


For more information which is more specific for US sizes, go to this link:

http://www.007b.com/bra-fitting.php

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Challenge

Can you do this?

Tell your life story in 10 words or less.

Here's mine:

American partier married French man and became French mom/teacher.

Dessus or Dessous?

You’re going to think I’m crazy. How can anyone just up and go on a whim? How could you leave your country, your family, your friends and almost all your belongings behind to go and live in a country you’ve never been to before? How could anyone move to a place without learning to speak the language first?
Okay. I am crazy, or at least I was.
But haven’t you ever dreamt of doing just that? Haven’t we all dreamt of starting over at some point in our lives?
As a little girl I used to love to lounge out on the back seat of the car whenever we went on longer trips. I would watch the clouds above me through the window and pretend I was running away. I would imagine a whole new life for myself, but I usually imagined my destination would be Florida or Maine.
So I guess I fell in love with the idea of starting over years prior to falling in love with the man who would offer me the chance to do just that. When he asked me to move with him to France, I stunned him by saying yes. I didn’t hesitate for a second because in a way, I’d been planning that move my entire life.
It sounds easy doesn’t it? I wish it had been. I wish it was.
If you’ve ever travelled and lived far away from your country for a long period of time, you know that it’s never easy. There are things you miss and days you would do just about anything to go back to where you believe you belong. There are other days when you do go back and sometimes get the feeling that you no longer belong there either. You become this person who just can’t feel completely at home anywhere.
If I remain here, in seven years, I will have lived half my life in each country. I wonder if by then, I’ll finally have managed to pronounce dessus and dessous differently and therefore correctly and without having to resort to theatrics in order to indicate whether I mean above or below. That pretty much is how I feel most days over here—like I’m caught between that above and below, not sure exactly where I’m at but floating somewhere in the middle.